Posts Tagged ‘self-judgement’

As I break from my studies, I notice the intense focus it takes to prepare for certain events. Stress want to come up, in a usual automatic way, yet, I am practicing just noticing. Have you tried to do that? Just notice without the judgements, rules, shoulds.

I notice how I feel, that I have been thinking, and some worry amongst other things. There is no right or wrong.

This is called witnessing, and it can be a powerful tool.  By witnessing, we are present NOW, not living in the future or the past.  So, I practice as I go about my tasks…

What would you notice if you were to just witness your doings and thoughts?

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What better than a new year’s resolution? Being your best every day. What is your best? You know what that is for you. And every day it changes.

So what is critical is not allowing judgement, assumption, negative thought or opinion sway or influence your view on what is your best. Only you can say. If you want more on this, go read The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz (http://www.miguelruiz.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=6:the-four-agreements&catid=13:books&Itemid=7).

It takes practice to think different, let alone do different things to be healthier.  But, it starts with an idea, a thought.  When you are ready to explore and change the landscape of your mind and actions, I am here to help.  Visit Wellness in Balance, www.wellnessinbalance.com for more information.

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Accountability- to hold to account, to account for what is so. What is so? That is, what ‘is’. There is no right or wrong, good or bad in what is so. There just ‘is’. When I coach, or any coach practices, I hold to account my clients. There is no judgement, or ‘you are a bad person because you didn’t do as you said!’.

A mature conversation might look like ‘What obstacles have occured such that you did not do what you said’. As opposed to the usual less-than-mature conversations we tend to have (see judgment, criticism, etc.)

We live in a society that so easily discards our word, to others and particularly, to ourselves. We also do what is easy, what is there in the moment, even if it is counter, or undermines, what we really want (like weight & money goals, etc.). Why is that? Training? Lack of motivation? Lack of commitment? Weakness?

True evolvement means we say what we do, do what we say. Clean it up if you don’t. All the rest is baggage that leads to alot of emotional upheaval, meaning-making. What is so, is what is so. The rest is story, interpretation, often garbage. Holding to account can be clean-say what is so. If it is not in alignment with what you want, consider what you need to do different. It’s your word, what is it worth to you??

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